Early in the morning

Early in the morning, gonna scolded by my mil again!
Every month, will gonna scolded by her! she scold us regarding yesterday matter. i haven scold her, she start to scold us wen we reach her hse this morning....
she scold my hubby din care for her, din call her to ask her leg better, can look aft baby, n say din tell her today cming to her hse for her to look aft baby! She tot she is his gf huh, need to comfort her n care for her! she always jealous that my hubby care for me n baby! she also got husband to care for her ma!!
she say many thing, n say until she is the greatest mum in the world!!! den say last time, she take care of 2 kids herself. she everytime ask me dun work n look aft baby. at the begining, i will tell her, if i din work n my hubby earning is not much, who will provide us money for baby n ous hse!
2day i very gd already, i din say any words or look at her, let her scold, i act like she talking rubbish!!! hehe... i will try to tolerate with her this yr! starting of nx yr, Jovian becm 18 months, i surely bring her to childcare centre. dun need see or hear her say anything. still got so long way to go.... but i will try my best to tolerate!!!

Angry Day

So angry 2day, my mother-in-law call my hubby this morning to say that she cnt look aft my baby cos her leg pain! I tell my hubby y yesterday not pain and today pain, den last min call. (if yesterday nite call, i can arrange my mum to come my hse to look aft Jovian for me)I wake up so early and already prepared to go to her hse, lucky that i still haven wake my Jovian! So I quickly call my mum at 6.15am but my mum still haven on her hp. I reach my mum only at 7.30am den my mum need to settle her side 1st so i need to take half day leave to look aft Jovian 1st! (wasted my leave,cos not much leave left).

Story abt my baby Jovian Sha'nn

This is the 1st time i blog here so i will began a story abt my little baby Jovian....

Mummy : Esther Ong

Daddy : Jason Pek

Baby : Jovian Sha'nn Pek
I give birth to Jovian Sha’nn Pek Min Qi on 28^th May 2007. That day around 3.00am, I wake up to go to toilet, I did not on the light but I saw my panties got water on it so I on the light, got blood on it! I faster went to bedroom to wake up my hubby n say my panties got blood faster ask him to contact my doctor to see need to go to hospital, my hubby thought I bluff him & fall back to sleep again so I ask him, why he fall asleep, he say he going to work later, so I shouted at him & say that I going to give birth liao, den he quickly jump up from bed. After that I went to take a bath & prepared to go to hospital. My hubby tried to contact my doctor (Adrain Tan) & he say better go to hospital to check 1^st.

We reach Thomson Medical Centre at around 5+am. We go to the counter to register & my hubby stay at the counter & I was bought in to the ward to change into delivery skirt. After that the nurse put smthing on my anus to force all the shit out n check whether my cervix is open to how many cm…. It is 2cm & she say can give birth today….. and than send me to delivery suite to wait for delivery. Inside the suit, they have TV, radio & 1 comfortable sofa for hubby to sit. I stay on the bed, my stomach got equipment to test for the baby heart, I cnt move too much, I can only stay there to watch TV & talk to hubby. I so tired at that moment cos I wake up so early but I cnt fall asleep cos the midwife keep coming in to monitor my temperature, blood pressure & keep tabs on baby’s heart rate…..

Around 9+am, my doctor (Adrian Tan) come into my suite n check on me. Until now I still not in pain & my water bag still not burst so my doctor burst my water bag n than he go back to his clinic n say that he will come in the aftnoon to check on me…. After that my stomach started to feel pain. The pain is like everytime my period come, the pain that I can tolerate…. The contraction coming in more n more often & the midwife keep asking me whether I need epidural, I feel that I can tolerate the pain so I only ask the midwife for the pain-relieving gas. At first, I don’t know how to use the gas, I cnt breathe…. Than the midwife says need to inhale more until I feel the gas & than out hale again…. The midwife every hour would come in to check on my cervix & say that I will give birth at afternoon time….

My pain started to feel very pain around 12+, the feeling is like passing motion, I tell my hubby that I going to give birth & ask him to call the midwife in to check the cervix, but the midwife say that my cervix still haven reach 10cm, ask me don’t force the baby out 1^st & that day many people giving birth n the midwife is very busy n keep asking me don’t push 1^st, ask me to breathe the gas n ask my hubby to count 123 for me to breathe. I cnt control anymore n keep pushing the baby out so the midwife stay in my room n ask me to take my leg n push! I tried to push but I have not strength so the midwife say dun pushes 1^st, breath the gas n wait for her. Than she go to other room again…. Den I cnt control myself again n keep pushing n my hubby keep telling me dun push but I cnt tolerate…. (I can see that my hubby is very anxious n scared when he sees me in pain…) So my hubby ask the midwife to cm over, the midwife help me to push again but the baby head still cnt cm out, the midwife say I dunno hw to push…. I very angry n push very hard again…. The baby head coming out little bit, the midwife quickly ask my doctor to come to take over…. When Adrian come, he ask me to push harder n the baby head n shoulder come out n ask me to push more harder so I did…. My baby was born at 3+pm. After giving birth, doctor straight away pass the baby to me to take a look n my hubby was ask by the doctor to cut the cord blood stem…. After that the doctor give me an injection on my thigh to stop the blood n stitches my vaginal….

We stayed in the delivery suite until 5+pm cos they need to measure the baby weight, head n length…… After that, they bring the baby to bath….. n my hubby n me waited at the suite cos the entire midwife n nurse is very busy…..

I was push to my ward (ward no.: 252A), it is a 2 person ward…. I was so hungry n weak at that moment cos the whole day I haven eat…. So I ask the nurse for milo n cake… My hubby tired to call my mum n his parent to tell them this good news. Aft that my hubby go to drive them to hospital to see me n baby…. My mum, his parent n brother came (I thought his mum wnt cm! Dun comes better!) My elder brother came around 10+pm so my mum n the rest wait for them to come… They were in order to carry my baby…. I was laying on the bed cos I still in the pain n the nurse tell me stay in bed today n tomorrow den can move… I ask my hubby to stay here to accompany me but the nurse dun allow him so he drive them home n come tomorrow morning….

At night the nurse tell me that today need to pass urine (scared that if no urine for so long will affect my inner) or else she will put smthing on my vaginal for me to pass out…. So I ask her to bring me to the toilet to see whether got urine but its too pain n I pass out little bit so the nurse use the shower to splash to my vaginal still no use.…. After that I keep drinking red date water which my mum brought, I have the urge so I ask the nurse again, this time finally urinal….

On the 2^nd day (29^th May 2007), the hospital had arranged for training on hw to bath n breast feed the baby so my hubby n I go for the lesson. It is an interesting lesson n I know hw to calm my baby….

For the one-month confinement (28/5/07 – 28/06/07), at first I decided to call catering for confinement meal but my mum says not nourishment enough so she comes to cook for me. I really appreciated her for doing so many thing for me, so I only let her to cook n sweep the floor for me n I look aft my baby at days n night n do the housework myself. During this one-month many people come to visit me except my hubby parent. They din even call to ask hw baby n me!

We celebrated my baby full month on 24^th June 2007. At 1^st, we decided to invite friend for buffer but thinking of our financial problem, I decided not to. (Haiz no choice, I really wants to give my baby the best thing but his father cnt afford it…..). We only give cake to our friends and prepared things to pray to god. Hubby father, brother and wife came to our hse, only his stupid mum din comes. So I ask his father why she din come, he say that I din invite her so she don’t want to come. My mum ask me to call her to invite her (I don’t want to invite her!), so I call her, she still put on a strong attitude, I put dwn the phone.

At first my hubby know hw to help up a little bit like feeding the baby at night but nw he dunno hw to feed her n only concentrate with his course work.

Starting of every weeks (mean wkdays) needs to go to that stupid women (mu hubby mum) hse to let her look aft my baby! I really dun like to see her stupid face but no choice….. If I got money, I rather bring my baby to childcare center den to see her!

When my baby was around 3 months old, I call her to ask her to look aft my baby, she keep saying she dun 1 2 look aft baby….. I say nobody look aft 4 me, & I will give her money every month. In the end, she says ok.

So on 29/08/07, I bring my baby there. For the 1^st month, everything ok, on the day we gtg to give her money, she din say much but the nx day, she ask we give her this money is for looking aft baby or eating dinner here. I tell her looking aft baby, she can dun cook 4 us. She keep scolding us, I so angry but cnt scold her! She say the amount giving to her is enough for wat, I tell her we dun have enough to give her, if got money surely will give her! Before that I tell her on the phone but nw she say another thing! So nw my hubby say need to give her more.

At 1^st, she uses the diapers very fast, so I just tell her, if not so full dun change 1^st or else wasted. She also din say anything. Nx morning same pattern again, scold us early in morning, say, “If scare she waste diapers den look aft yourself la!” and say that she dun 1 2 look aft, and ask us to put her in the child care, so we quickly go n ask the childcare price. All very expensive, and we cnt effort it and my mum leg pain cnt look aft 4 me. We so worry, I tell my mum if she really dun 1 2 look aft den ask my mum 2 look aft. But in the end, she ok liao, she din say a words again…. Siao!!!!

She will try to scold us early in the morning when we reach there, so I dun like to go to her hse. If not 4 my baby I surely wnt go to her hse again. So I plan to send my baby to childcare when she reaches 18 months. Aft that I can say her n dun needs to look at her stupid face!!!!

On 29^th Feb, my mum tell me to ask her whether they got invite my mum to her brother wedding so I ask her. She say Meiling (my hubby bro wife, also my relative) parents dun like my mum so dun invite her and need to ask hubby side to invite my mum. I so angry, n say what u talking!!! She keep saying Meiling parents say they dun 1 2 invite my mum cos they dun like her!!! I so angry but I cnt scold her, later nobody look aft my baby again!!! So aft this incident, I dun feel like talking to her!!!! I told my mum all this incident, and ask my mum to call Meiling dad to ask wat he tell my mother-in-law! He dun dare to ans the call! I ask my mum if that day got anybody invite her, dun go and that day i will tell all my relatives wat my mother-in -law say!

10th Mar, she say us again, say we 1 2 buy duck & ang ku kuek to pray god but self-fish din buy anything. Is not that we dun buy, we ask her many times, at first say 1 2 buy den say dun buy so we just listen to the last words. I dun 1 2 talk too much to her, and I also dun feel like eating anything there. Aft we go off, my hubby ask me y I din eat. I say his mum say us until like this, hw I eat!!! Den I also tell him I dun like to talk to his mum nw cos she say bad thing abt my mum!!! I tell him the whole story, but he still believes not his mum false, is my relatives dun like my mum!!!! I so angry n scold him, n he also shout at me!!! Den I went off his car. I tot he wnt call me wen he reach his office but he call. So i just cool dwn to ans his call....

I really tired of his family members, my mother-in-law think that nw we need her so she can scold us wen she feel like it... I feel like scolding her, but i cnt.... my mum ask me to tolerate 1st.... :( I need to tolerate and see her every wkdays!!!!!